WHY ARE ASIAN GIRLS SO MESSED UP?

Sometimes people place the most amazing comments underneath my articles. Such as the question "why are Asian girls so messed up?"
It's a good question. Totally berserk, but likely to start a conversation.
Or at the very least, keenly excite the intellectual curiosity of several people, some of whom are dubious in the extreme.


WHY ARE ASIAN GIRLS SO MESSED UP?

Thank you for asking! I'm incredibly flattered that you consider me an expert on the subject, or at least someone whose deep insight is worth seeking. Despite my only having had one relationship of any duration, with, remarkably, a woman who was of Asian ancestry.
English is her first language, by the way.
She's an American.

Our affair lasted for over two decades. It's over now. Even after enduring for such a long a time, it does not make me an expert. I still know more about pipe tobacco and tea than feminine psychology.

Did you possibly mean "why are American girls so messed up" instead?
If you did, that's a question which I probably couldn't answer either.
Seeing as I've only had one relationship of any duration.
She wasn't any more messed up than normal, btw.
And she knew zilch about pipe tobacco.

I could ask in response: "why are American men so messed up?"

And you would probably consider that question both unusual -- you do not consider yourself messed up in the slightest, whereas the rest of the world thinks otherwise -- as well as remarkably rude.

But why ARE you so messed up?!?

And why are you asking about Asian girls?

From the masculine point of view, most women are quite neurotic anyhow, and we're never likely to understand them, Asian or otherwise. If you want even a half-assed stab at grasping the female of the species, avoid any and all women with whom you don't have anything in common, most especially a language both of you speak with equal fluency. If you don't do this, you'll be asking yourself what the heck is going on and what you did wrong before you even know it. Well before the twenty-year mark in any case.

And she'll be the one demanding "why are American men so messed up" instead.
And you know something? She'll be absolutely right.
You are pretty messed up. Everything which she had good reason to take for granted you were entirely unaware of, what she assumed was obvious went right past you. And things that you left unsaid, she left unheard.

If you do not speak the same language and read the same books (assuming that both or either of you actually read), you will have a hard time establishing a worthwhile relationship.
And if you lack considerable shared social elements in common, there will be far less agreement than either of you would wish.

Asian girls are no more messed up than white girls.
Or Americans, irrespective of gender.
Nor any less either.

Perhaps it's you.


AFTERWORD

The commenter didn't actually us the term "messed", but rather a verb that began with the sixth letter of the alphabet. Everything else he said indicated that he had certain regrettable preconceptions.

I too have preconceptions, albeit different ones. And I cannot advise anyone about their love life or sexual peccadilloes, as I am not a psychologist, father confessor, or experienced roué.

Not that I regret that; I am normal.
Some people aren't.



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