THE GIDDY SOCIAL WHIRL

Apparently there is a male loneliness epidemic. No, I am not going to research that, or offer deep sociological insights. Just a glib sneering judgement that they are all losers. Which is based on my exposure to the modern American male. Whom, if I were a woman, I wouldn't date with a ten foot pole.

One of the people I know has packed all his stuff into his motor vehicle and is moving to a place where they have private cigar lounges, lots of tech bros, and video games.
Which is as good an indication of his social skills as any.

At the other end of the scale, I had a discussion with a gentleman over the weekend who despite being older than Christ, is into manga and anime, and over the years has learned enough Japanese to understand some really weird stuff. Kudos to him. I stand in awe. And that may have been the best conversation he's had since Obama was president. Not good enough to encourage other people to avidly study manga and anime, or Hello Kitty and Sailor Moon, or Japanese, but evenso. Dude. In the last two decades I have absorbed enough knowledge about all of those fields to satisfy my very minor curiosity.
And will not be taking classes in any of it.
But I admire obsessions.

If males are lonely it's because they don't talk. The squeakless wheel gets no double you dee forty. Being an absolute genius at cigars and video games is no use unless you open your mouth and bore someone. Take risks.

Also, own your part of the spectrum. As a person with mild Aspergers, I enjoy spending large parts of my days off not dealing with actual real human beings. Which is why I avoid private cigar lounges, gyms and yoga studios, concerts, sporting events, religious groups, and all coffee shops filled with yuppies on their cell-phones. I'm not social enough for any of that.

Social skills like shaving, showering, and doing laundry regularly are rather important. Do not neglect them. Highly individualistic hair styles or tattoos are no substitute and only go so far. Avoid yoga studios.


If you are really desperate, consider practicing the bagpipes. That's sure to attract attention. Many people, including women, will hasten to tell you that that reminds them of someone they used to know, even some relatives. Instant social success.

It does not matter if you are not musically able.
Bagpipe players never are.


I have seen three bagpipe videos in the last hour on my media feed.
And am presently considering trout fishing.
Wheeeee!




Presently smoking a Peterson's smooth billiard, shape 15, made in the Republic of Ireland, stamped Dublin & London. It is filled with Fribourg & Treyer tobacco. A good product. Considering either doing laundry before lunch, or making a cup of tea.
And totally avoiding doomscrolling.




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