Others wear snoods. Which are, almost entirely without exception, immodestly ugly.
What, I hear my readers ask, in heaven's name, is a sheitel?
SHEITELS are wigs; expensive wigs. Sometimes wigs that rival snoods for uglier than a monkey's tuchus ghastly.
The best are made with real human hair (low to medium four figures), inferior ones with heavens knows what (as cheap as a few hundred).
No matter the expense, the effect is twixt old-country dowdy and New Jersey gangster moll stylish, wow zesty mamesh.
HODU HAIR
There has recently been a groise machloikes over sheitels made with hair from India.
The problem was that the hair (either all, or three symbolic tufts) was shorn from Hindu women at religious ceremonies - don’t ask, I haven’t a clue, I’m a chochemerd tatenyu, not a pandit.
But it had to do with idolatrous purification rituals, and temple profits from the sale of the hair, and thus reeked of avodah zara (strange service, hence idolatry).
It is issur to partake of, share in, or in fact have anything to do with idolatry. Especially monetarily.
Why is hair from India used in wigs?
The two main sources of hair used in wigs and hairpieces are Europe and India. The desirability of Indian temple-cut hair lay in the length, strength, and alignment.
Hair that is aligned (that has all its cuticles pointing in the same direction – called Remy hair) can be used for high quality wigs that have a natural look, whereas hair that is not aligned will need to be chemically stripped of the cuticle layer to keep it from becoming tangled.
[Note: in order to dye hair, it has to be stripped and bleached; this is never done to Remy hair. ]
Keeping hair aligned is done by tying it with ribbons prior to cutting; this was in fact customary at the temple. The hair was then sold, and the money benefited the idol served at that temple.
Aligned hair is more expensive than stripped hair, and is used for better wigs, whereas stripped hair is often also chemically bleached, dyed, and conditioned.
So the problem is this: if your sheitel is glossy, black and expensive, it probably is made of Indian Remy hair. If it is any other colour but did not cost an arm and a leg, it nevertheless also may be made of Indian hair.
Is all hair from India suspect?
Only ten percent (more or less) of the hair purchased from India comes from the temple in question (Tirumala). Because a much larger percentage of Remy hair from India is temple hair, it might be argued that a wig made from dyed hair (remember, Remy hair is not dyed) should contain far less temple hair. But there is no way of telling – a sheitel of dyed hair could be all temple hair, because not all temple hair is Remy.
In the same way that one can not assume that a piece of meat is kosher without evidence (presumption based on place purchased, trust in the merchant having full knowledge of the derivation, and verifiability based on trusted agents who oversee and examine), one can not blithely assume that because the sheitel is not Remy it is safe.
What about European hair?
Hinduism is not prevalent in Europe, and there are no religious practices in Europe in which a woman cuts off long hair. So, based on currently known data, European Remy hair should be considered Halachically acceptable.
A PSAK, A PSAK, MY KINGDOM FOR A PSAK!
Several ravs have spouted psak and teshuve ad nauseum, most either coming out against Indian hair wigs except under certain circumstances (psak l’issur), or stating l’heter that they were acceptable unless it was definitely known that the hair was tainted by A.Z., or in fact outright takruves (offerings) to the getchkeh (idol).
Some went on for several pages, quoted multiple authorities most marvelously, without actually saying bulgar all (I assure you that they standardly act so - it's not just you. Or your wig).
And a few proved nothing more than that an obsession with hair is common among poskim.
Rav X in Antwerp, in his considered opinion of the issue, may have said something to the effect that ‘de milde toepassing van de wet verdient de voorkeur’ (the mild application of the law deserves precedence), but he said it in over twenty pages of densely written Ivrit – this he expects women to read?
This he expects ME to read????
Shroyb es oyf Fleymish oder mameloyshn, zeyt azoy git! And be brief; I still have to read next week’s parsha!
That a lenient ruling should be made is in keeping with the decision made by rabbeyim over fifteen years ago (AND thirty years ago) when this issue came up before. But it may be that, at that time, the poskim were not fully aware of the details of the issue, hence their being matir.
BRIEF IRRELEVANT INTERLUDE
In mittn drinnen, most gedolei ha poskim (greats among the orthodox halachic decisors) have aza yechechishe yad that whatever they write cannot be deciphered – there ARE typewriters for Hebrew, freyvinseyks, or hire a sofeyr!
[I can recommend a sofeyr-in-training, if you need one. He can also correct your shreckliche Yiddishe grammar, not even mentioning the frightful things you do with Aramaic and Hebrew. He's good. He'll make your colleagues finally respect your tennuous claim to lomdus.
Instead of envying your talent for apikorsus and taste in Rabbinic wigs.]
OTHER HAIR
There are some very fine sheitlach made from Chinese hair (which is as strong as Indian hair, but has a softer and more sensual look), but if you must have a head of Chinese hair, best keep the Chinese person attached. Believe me, you won’t regret it. I haven’t.
On the other hand, hair from a harlot, or from a murderess shorn at her imprisonment, would also be perfectly acceptable - as long as she was not intimately involved in idolatry.
CARE OF THE SHEITEL
Taking care of your sheitel is crucial. Many women use a sheitel liner in between their head and the actual wig, which keeps it cleaner and prevents their own hair from intruding on the elegant, zesty lines of the sheitel. Synthetic hair is easier to clean, but bear in mind that synthetic wigs end up looking ratty and eccentric within a year, whereas a good real hair wig maintains its looks a bit longer.
If you wish to wash your wig yourself, instead of taking it to your local sheitel macher, do so every five or six weeks. It is best to place the thing securely on a Styrofoam head (use pins), wet it with warm water, lather with shampoo, and rinse gently. Conditioner can be applied, but apply AWAY from the root. Rinse after a minute or so. It can be air-dried, but in moist environments it is advisable to speed up the process with a blow dryer on low heat – also good for styling.
AGAIN, WHY A WIG IN THE FIRST PLACE?
Rabbinic law states that married women should cover their hair before all save their husbands, for reasons of modesty.
In the eighteenth century, when ultra-orthodoxim first started wearing sheitlach, the deceptively real appearance of certain wigs was manifestly not a problem; wigs were observedly unnatural, and no immodesty could be imputed.
Many orthodox rebbeyim at that time opined that covering one’s hair was more effectively done l’halocho with a sheitel than with a tiechel (headkerchief) or hat, as the sheitel can cover all of the hair, while also being convenient for wearing indoors.
Since then wiggery has become a firm custom, which many do not have the confidence to discard, and yet do not think deeply about. And there are those who, b’hiddur mitzvah, also wear a kerchief or a hat, in addition to their perruque.
Yet a good wig can mislead other women (who cannot see that it is fake, and may therefore assume that if a woman who is known to be respectable and frum is showing hair, it is acceptable to do so), and may in fact be as immodest in its effects as flaunting a luxurious head of hair for men to see, to smell, nay even to brush their faces against on the bus, inhaling deeply of its delicate aroma of perfumed shampoo.
Finally, if showing hair is tantamount to immodesty, I have to wonder whether it is not best for men to expose their big (!) bushy (!) beards (!) only to their wives, and only in the home.
Perhaps a discrete beard-snood is required. I know several rabbeyim who would look the better for it.
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Sheitelmacher = One who makes sheitels. A manufacturer of sheitels, or a merchant of sheitels, particularly one who also reconditions sheitels and restores sheitels. One who has skills for the construction of sheitels, and the maintenance of sheitels and restoration of sheitels. A place where one may have a sheitel made, the place of business of one who makes or sells sheitels. Also the place of business of someone who reconditions sheitels or restores sheitels. A place where one may have a sheitel reconditioned, or where maintenance of sheitels is performed. Also the person who undertakes to maintain or restore sheitels. Even someone who repairs sheitels.
Note: A version of this text was first featured in commentary on certain e-mail drashas, but I'm comfortable recycling my own material, and having already spoken about sheitels today, I bethought me: "why not speak in detail of wigs". So I did. Questions?
4 comments:
there's a GMA"Ch for sheitels now. it's called 'kupat hair'.
I could not agree with you more about the wigs issue. You explain this issue with in such a humorous tone and you seem to have a grasp on the orthodox-american culture. I do agree that sometimes these so called modest wigs make a woman look better than she looks with her own hair. First, I was on this frum program in Jerusalem last summer, and our rabbi's wife (leader of the group) was wearing a wig for shabbat, but I thought it was her real hair, the only way i figured out later it was not because the comb-over (roots) of the hair looked unnatural. In addition, she put gel in her wig i think to make it look more "modern" and like real hair. Also i know a woman, who is orthodox, who wears a hair band, and i always thought it was her own hair, but it turned out that it was not her own hair.
I really do not understand this tradition. Did not Egyptians wear wigs? why would we immitate them.Finally, why should all "modest" people be forced to wear the same things like those hair band-wigs, they make all of these observant women look alike like pioneers back in the USSR, it's like a required piece of uniform.
Miri, that point about Egyptians wearing wigs is excellent.
The upper classes in Egypt wore wigs. As did the upper classes in Europe during the perriwig period. The analogy then for wigs that comes to mind is the garb that some Hassidic groupings wear - based in part on what Polish noblemen of the age wore.
Women - wigs.
Men - Bekeshes and streimlach.
And yet, one should not immitate the customes of the gentiles.....
Where can I get a Sheitel in or around the bay area?
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